How do I stay Positive…
I shared part of this briefly on my Instagram today, but honestly I wanted to share it here as well because I know many of you follow me because of our fertility journey. I get asked a lot how I stay positive during this fertility journey... & after 6 years on this wild ride I think I finally figured it out. I’m able to see the simple beauty in every moment & the hope around me is magnified by all my loss I have endured along the way. I see hope in newborn babies, flowers, sunny days, thunderstorms, laughter, a simple chat with a friend, small victories, love, & so much more. I wasn’t like this before losing all our babies or struggling for 6 years to grow our family.
Without Knowing Loss I’d never see the World
I breezed through life not enjoying the simple things & I didn’t see what a miracle it all really is… life is a miracle & I’m so thankful God put me on this journey so I can see the world like I do now. Without knowing loss or feeling the pain and agony of waiting I would never see the world the way I’m able to now & when you see that the tiniest things are miracles & the ordinary things are stunningly beautiful the world is a beautiful place. I know when we hold our baby someday no matter how God gives us that child I will love it so much more deeper than I would have without these fertility trials & for that I’m grateful. His timing is perfect. He is good all the time…
It’s by His Grace
So when you ask me how I survive recurrent miscarriages and many years of fertility struggles to conceive & then losing every single baby we have ever conceived… I can tell you that it’s not me, it’s Him. It’s prayer, it’s by His grace, it’s a gift that He has thankfully given me on this journey. That may sound unobtainable or silly, but it’s really simple and available to everyone.
Being Thankful
It’s finding a reason to be thankful every morning, finding a purpose every single day, & trusting that you are exactly where God wants you. Choose to be a light in the darkness, chase your dreams even when you feel like you can’t run anymore & know that his timing is perfect. See that even though it’s not your plan it can still be good, & decide to use your trials to inspire others realizing that you need to enjoy this season so there is no regret later.
Peace in my Heart
God has made these things quite natural for me after praying for peace in my heart. It’s easy to get angry about our situation, but life is so much better when we choose to see the joy in it all & choose to trust and know that His timing is perfect. I will forever choose to be a light in this world rather than spread darkness. Am I perfect? No. Do I ever have bad days. Oh yes. Do I have to be reminded to trust? You know it. None of us have it all figured out or can say that we don’t get angry, confused, defeated, or jealous, but we can work hard at having more good days than bad & be a better person even when it isn’t easy.
Today my heart is hurting for my babies & longing to hold them. Today I envy those who carry their babies so effortlessly & today I pray that God blesses us with a child someday soon. But today despite all of this I am so thankful because I know God’s plan is bigger than mine & that our journey is for a reason. I’m so thankful for the opportunity to share our story here on the blog. I am thankful for your kind words always, your prayers, & the opportunity to connect with others who are struggling in similar and different ways. Thank you for asking questions like this one, thank you for all of your suggestions & help, & thank you for being here on this journey…. it means the world to me that you stop by here daily & to have you here in the highs & the lows. Thank you! xx
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I say a little prayer for you daily. I was once in your place, it seemed everyone I knew was having babies, but me. I was hurt, angry, sensitive to everything but mostly sad. My husband was wonderful and never let me give up hope, the we were blessed with 4babies in three years. I have had the privilege of,watching them grow into beautiful young women, one of which met you on Saturday. I know you have heard it before, but keep hope in your heart and I will be saying prayers until you become the mother you want to be.
Praying also Liz and Jose…
Hi Liz,
I’ve been following your infertility journey for some time and was wondering if you might address how you and Jose feel about IVF or adoption as ways to add to your family? I know you’ve discussed your miscarriages, etc. but was wondering if those two options were something you were open to. Also, would you consider IVF with a surrogate? As someone who had to go through IVF, I know the emotional and physical pain it brings, but ultimately all of that sacrifice was worth it in the end. I pray you and Jose fine a way to add to your family.
Praying for you and Jose. God is good all the time! You are an inspiration to many! Stay strong and beautiful.
Sweet Liz, you masks me cry and smile and truly understand that trauma to the soul can be risen above’. God Bless You Liz’. You make my heart sing and I pray you & Jose get every gift hoped for! Bless you for being the most beautiful down to earth amazing woman!! Love you big-
Ann
We have been trying to have a family of our own for 19 years. We have never been blessed to even fall pregnant, but I have accepted that now. I really admire how you are still so thankful and still living such a beautiful life. I have to admit for the first 10 years, I have lived for nothing else. 10 years of my life slipped by and I do regret that I didn’t LIVE. I’m not sad about not have a baby anymore, but I do struggle to find me. My whole life I thought I’d be a mum, and even after 19 years, I struggle to find who I want to be now that I have accepted that it will never be a mum and I sometimes panic a little bit because I see people so much younger than me that achieved so much in their lives and I feel like I’m years behind. I have to be still and just centre myself. It is really difficult though. I really pray that it happen for you guys very soon! And I want to say that I really admire what you achieved despite your struggles. You are really someone to look up too. <3
Your heart is exactly what I learned after trying to have children for 12 years. Abba took me to the place of joy inspite of my circumstances. Yes there were good days and bad days, but as I started looking for ways to serve others and not make my life about me , my heart was transformed and joy and peace and trusting my Savior was my way to contentment and seeing others. I am 67 now 3 adult kids and 3 grands. Gods timing is perfect and I wouldn’t trade that season of my life for anything, He is a good good Father ⚔️?✡️✝️❤️
This has to be such a hard path to walk. However, the fact that you continue to refocus on the Lord and try to bring glory to God through it all; well, it is a beautiful testimony …you make Him proud I’m sure! We continue to pray for you and Jose.?
Liz, I just found your blog and am in tears reading up on your journey. I am so sorry for the struggles that you’ve had to face on your path to parenthood. You and your husband are in my prayers! I’ve been trying to over a year and we are starting fertility treatment next cycle for luteal phase defect and I have suspected Endometriosis.
Your faith is inspiring. Sending you so much love and hoping that your plan is revealed very soon.
xoxo
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You have truly found the meaning of our beautiful journey here on earth Liz Marie, and you should know how much you help so many others to reconnect with the beauty and blessings given to us all every day .By sharing so selflessly with us all , you’ve made a huge impact on so many, including me way over here in Australia. I think you are doing the Lords work every day. I thank you most fondly. In our prayers and blessings every day., May God bless and keep you and yours in his loving care, God bless you. Susanxx
You’ll be rewarded for sure I know, Best love and blessings from Susan xo